Faith-Resisting Happiness

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I’m not really sure what constitutes a copyright violation, but this is from the book Resisting Happiness and if you click the link you can get a free copy.

I picked it up for free at a Church in Stowe, Vermont I  attended. It’s really nice that Churches provide resources for their parish community. I almost felt guilty taking it, but that’s the devil for you.

I would give the book about 8/10.  the chapters were really short and to the point; very much my style. The most important part is what you take away from the book two months later. Here’s what I still remember.

  • Write down one thing you took away from Mass that week
  • Praying ten minutes a day can change your life (this is something I started doing in January and got out of the habit. Now that my schedule is less crazy, I will start again)
  • This is something I’ve really become conscious of over the last year. What am I hungry for?  So many times I   would turn to eating to fulfill something- comfort or good feelings. Instead of addressing the real issue at hand. Now I can acknowledge when I’m eating to fill a need. That’s a huge step- being self aware. I’m not yet perfect at addressing it from there, but I recognize it happening. My nutritionist said that I need to step off the guilt trip train. That it’s ok to eat to feel good once in a while. It’s ok if the scale doesn’t change. Yeah it can be frustrating but life moves on. So what? Move on. What’s beating yourself up going to do?

Ask yourself, what are you hungry for? Maybe it’s not food, maybe it’s for relationship. Maybe it’s for God. Maybe you don’t know. The only way you’ll know is by eating. Maybe you eat the wrong thing and throw up. Maybe you feel terrible. Well, then, you learn. And you grow. And you won’t eat it again. Or maybe you do. Eventually you’ll figure it out if you keep trying to be the best you you can be. I think that’s what Sainthood is all about. I think this is a great book to get you closer. It’s a quick read.  Pick it up sometime!

Ask and you shall receive

A little over two weeks ago I had my last day at my first ever side gig, the Framingham YMCA. I will do a whole separate post on that and what it did for my life. This post is about jumping ahead to the next thing.

There are many benefits to working at a YMCA that I knew I would sorely miss. The community, the comprehensive fitness options, the extra money. So what’s a girl to do but apply at a YMCA near my new home?

The one closest to me has little to no fitness classes and I didn’t want floor hours. So I looked at the next closest YMCA, the Cambridge location.

There were no job postings, so on a whim I emailed the director. He emailed me back relatively soon and we set up an interview and demo. I had never had to do a demo before- great way to get out of my comfort zone. For the record, a demo is typically a fifteen minute long class plan for the person interviewing you.

The interview and demo went great. I landed the job! Everything’s sunshine and roses! Ha, if only.

Turns out there’s no parking lot. To park, it’s metered parking. Its like $2 worth of quarters every time you park, two hour maximum. The most annoying!

Then, because I’m technically only a “sub”, I didn’t get a membership. WHAT?! that’s the main reason I wanted the job.

This isn’t panning out to be how I expected. Well, after mulling back and forth about maybe quitting, I decided to email her back and ask if I could get a membership. Worst she says is no?

I had a rough draft of what I would say and I ran it by my boyfriend. Here’s what I said-

“Also, I would like to discuss getting a membership as a staff member. I think that agreeing to teach every other week would be considered more than subbing. At one point I’m teaching four weeks in a row. Could that benefit be reconsidered? It was a big reason I wanted to start working for another YMCA.”

He said it was too wordy and wrote back

“Dear ________,

I know I am a sub and we are not eligible for membership, but since I am working as a long term sub over the summer I am passing up vacation opportunity during this time. Could this benefit be reconsidered?

Thanks,
sarah the dork :)”

And I said “but I don’t agree that I’m a sub!” And he wrote back-

“Dear ________,

I am a sub and we are not eligible for membership, but since I am scheduled to work every other week over the summer I am passing up a lot of vacation opportunity during this time. Could a basic membership benefit be reconsidered in my situation?

Thanks,
sarah the dork :)”

HAHAHA. So in the end I wrote-

“I am wondering if you could reconsider my eligiblility for a basic membership. I am scheduled to work every other week over the summer-at one point I’m working four weeks in a row- and I am passing up vacation opportunity during this time. Since I am technically a sub, I am not eligible for membership but could this be reconsidered in my situation? It was standard at my old YMCA, I didn’t think to ask before I started!”

Sometimes I have to be reminded that telling the other person I think they’re wrong probably won’t get me my way. Thanks, John! Does the wording need to be perfect? Probably not. Just be considerate of the other person’s ego and opinion, let them know that you hear them out, and bring your point of view. I ended up getting the membership, woot!

Most importantly, ask and you shall receive. I’m glad I took the “risk” and asked.

What can you ask for that you may think is a big risk but probably really isn’t that could be really beneficial for you if you get it?

Faith-Dating App Gems

In honor of deleting my dating apps I was asked to post some gems. Here are my favorites:

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A: I don’t even look that fit B: Flattery. Just, no.

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Good luck, dude.

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NEXT

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When a guy just won’t take no for an answer

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Do you want my LinkedIN? Snap? GooglePlus too?

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When your deep spiritual life is considered “shallow”

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Well unfortunately I’m not your type!

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Sometimes when I get ghosted I like to have fun with it.

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This guy watched one too many Rom Coms. 

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Man with big muscles. 7’11” Me like. **sarcasm**

Yes, I deleted them because I have found someone I am very happy with. 🙂

Minimalism Game-Day 31, Last Day

This is a long overdue post, better late than never!

I know this isn’t technically 31 items, but it’s one really big one. My first MacBookPro. I remember being incredibly anti-Apple back in the day. After my third PC in four years was slow and frustrating me, I decided to cave and buy an Apple. That was in 2010. 7 years later, it died officially. I never regretted that purchase.

I ended up selling the shell that was this computer for $200. Everything works except the hard drive. It wasn’t that sad or hard to sell, but it carries sentimental value. At the time the computer was an expensive purchase. I used my own money. It was probably $1200. $1200/7=171.43 a year. Thinking of it this way made buying my new laptop a lot easier decision. Did I want to spend a good chunk of my house downpayment on a new laptop? Not particularly. But now I don’t have to worry about this again for another 7 years as long as all goes well. Same with my car. I didn’t want to spend the money on it, but I would’ve had to dump money into my other one soon enough for repairs. Additionally, my Venza is a family car. Who knows where I’ll be five years from now, but I’m covered either way. Plus, it’s good in the snow, and I can be seen better on the highway and it’s safer.

My point is, it’s not always about the price tag. It’s about the value.

Which leads me to the minimalism game wrap up. I’m really satisfied with my results. I didn’t make it all the way to Easter, but I made it to a point where I walk in my room and love how everything is organized and cleaner feeling. There’s only one thing I miss-an extra pair of crappy sweat pants. I’m going to feed goats with my parents tomorrow (##youknowyou’refromruralMAwhen) and I didn’t have a pair to bring. I’ll manage. I mostly only have things that have value. The next time I move I’ll have way less stuff.

Now, the new game is to keep my life minimalist and not buy a lot of stuff! So far so good.

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